A question the Sage hears often
We have been married a long time and agree on most things, but not this. I put the toilet paper on so it rolls over the top. My husband turns it around so it hangs underneath. Who is right? Please settle this before one of us moves out.
In short: History is on your side. The 1891 patent drawing for the perforated toilet roll shows it hanging over. Over is easier to find, grab and tear. Under has one good argument: it's harder for cats and toddlers to unroll. The fairest rule? Whoever changes the roll chooses.
The Sage replies…
Exhibit A: the patent
Toilet paper on a perforated roll was patented in 1891, and the inventor's drawing shows the paper hanging over the front. So if your husband wants to argue with the man who invented it, he's welcome to try.
The case for over
The end is easy to see and easy to grab. Your hand never brushes the wall. It's tidier for guests, and hotels fold that little point at the front for a reason. Most people, when asked, choose over too.
The case for under (yes, there is one)
If you have a cat who thinks the roll is a toy, or a toddler who loves to spin it, under is harder to unravel all over the floor. Some people also think it looks neater. That's about it.
The Sage's ruling
Over wins on history, handiness and good manners. But marriage is not a courtroom. Here is a rule that keeps the peace: whoever actually changes the roll gets to choose which way it goes. You may find he loses interest in the debate very quickly.
A bigger thought
If this is the biggest thing you two argue about after all these years, you're doing beautifully. Laugh about it. Then turn it back over when he's not looking.
With a wink and a twirl,
— The Dancing Sage
Try this
Take a household vote
Ask everyone at your next family gathering: over or under? Count the votes and enjoy the uproar.
A question to take with you: Which little household quarrel could I turn into a joke instead?
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