Dear Sage,
My adult son surprised me with a kitten. I don't want a cat! I want to go out when I please. How do I tell him?
— Hoping for Chocolates
In short: Thank him for the thought, then tell him kindly and clearly that you won't be keeping a pet. Ask him to help find the kitten a good home through whoever it came from or a reputable rescue, and keep it safe and cared for until then.
The Sage replies…
Darling, a kitten is a commitment with whiskers. That requires a conversation—not a surprise delivery.
Tell him kindly: "I know you meant well, but I'm not willing to take on a pet. We need to arrange a suitable home for this little one."
Ask him to help contact whoever the kitten came from, or a reputable rescue. Until then, make sure it's safe and cared for.
You can appreciate the thought and still say no.
And tell him next year, something that doesn't need a litter tray.
With a wink and a twirl,
— The Dancing Sage 🌿
Over to you
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